Women Lifting Women for Lent: Day 1
As you embark on the Lenten discipline of encouraging women, rather than bringing them down, pause and “think” before you speak. (I know it’s a little cheesy, but it’s pretty effective.)
Don’t stop with the first two letters of the acronym. That’s where we get in trouble sometimes. We tell ourselves that if something is true, then it will be helpful for the person if we tell them. Far too often what we try and justify as true and helpful is really just thinly veiled criticism. “You really shouldn’t eat food that’s so bad for you.” “You should choose clothes that better fit your shape.”
Keep going. Is it inspiring? Will your comment inspire (or encourage) someone to keep going? To change? To feel better?
Is it necessary? Does it really need to be said? Of course, if someone is about to do something that is going to cause harm to themselves or someone else, we want to stop them. But most daily conversations do not involve life or death situations.
The last one is the most important. Is it kind? If it’s not, you need to have some good reasons (like the aforementioned life/death issue) before you say it. There are indeed times when all of us need a good “put on your big girl panties and get on with it” talk. But most of the time, if it’s not true, helpful, inspiring, necessary or kind, it can just go unsaid.