10 Things Not To Say at Thanksgiving

Make your holiday a happy one. Based on my experience and extensive research, here are the top 10 questions to avoid this Thanksgiving Day.


  1. So, what do you think about the impeachment hearings?
  2. When are you two getting married?
  3. When are you having kids/another kid/trying for a boy/girl? (basically stay away from all talk of people’s sex lives and reproductive choices)
  4. Do you have a job yet? Or the related: When are you going to get a real job? (most often asked of artists, musicians, writers, baristas and freelancers)
  5. How can you stand living in the big city/out in the country/in that tiny apt?
  6. Should you really be eating that second piece of pie?
  7. Hey, remember when you did that horribly embarrassing/gross/immoral thing that most people have forgotten about and some people don’t even know?
  8. So, you really don’t eat any meat? You’re not even going to taste the turkey?
  9. How is your ex doing?
  10. Would you like to hear all about what Plexus/Limelight/Young Living can do for you?

Avoid asking these questions and your guests will be thankful for you…plus studies (mine) show that you’ll increase your odds of Happy Thanksgiving by at least 50 percent.

Add your own “don’t ask” questions in the comments. There are certainly more than ten.


Rev. Anne Russ is an ordained pastor in the Presbyterian Church (USA), currently based in New York City. Doubting Believer is an online, inclusive and progressive Christian community. Follow us on Facebook and get emails to keep up with all that is happening.

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