10 Men No Woman (Christian or otherwise) Should Marry
I couldn’t stand it. After reading two different posts (that I at first thought were a joke) about Men Christian Women Shouldn’t Marry and Women Christian Men Shouldn’t Marry, I had to put together at least one list of my own.
So here are my 10 Men No
Christian Woman Should Marry
- The Guy Who Always Puts You Down to Build Himself Up
A guy who belittles you when you are alone and especially one who does so in front of others isn’t anyone you want anything to do with. We are called by God to encourage one another and build each other up. (1 Thessalonians 5:11a) You are a beloved child of God, wonderfully and fearfully made. (Psalm 139:14) Anyone who treats you otherwise need not apply.
- The Guy Who Believes You are a subordinate instead of a partner
In Genesis 2:18, God creates Adam a “help meet.” In Hebrew the two words that make up “help meet” are derived from are the words “ezer” and the word ‘k’enegdo“. “Ezer” means to save or to be strong. The other part of the term “help meet” which is commonly translated as “meet for” or “fit for” is the word “k’enegdo“. This passage is the only time this word appears in the whole Bible, so it is hard to know exactly what it means. A related word, “neged” means “against” or “exactly corresponding to,” like when one looks in a mirror. (1)
So God created Eve to save Adam and to be his corresponding partner. Not to serve under him.
- The Guy Who Thinks Housework is Women’s Work
Don’t ever marry a guy who won’t do the dishes. You’ll end up resentful and dishpan handed.
- The Guy Who Calls Taking Care of His Own Kids “Babysitting”
Unless you adopt, you will be the one to carry the child, deliver the child and (if you go that route) feed the child. You are amazing, but you cannot do this alone. Once again, you need a partner who will share the joys of diaper changing, lunch preparation, carpool and PTA meetings.
- The Momma’s Boy
You were created in Jesus Christ for good works, which God has prepared before hand. (Ephesians 2:10). You are your own self, not anyone else. You were not born to fry chicken, iron a shirt and awake with a fresh face of make up just like his mother.
- The Slacker
A family friend of ours only wanted to know one thing about her daughters’ suiters, “Does he have any marketable skills? I would add, “Is he willing to use them?” Because he also who is slack in his work is brother to him who destroys. (Proverbs 18:9)
- The It’s-All-About-Me-All-The-Time Guy
While you want a man who feels good about himself, you don’t want someone who thinks only about himself. You want to go with Marian the Librarian’s song “My White Night” from The Music Man. “And I would like for him to be more interested in me than he is in himself, and more interested in us than in me.” Not only is a selfish person impossible to live with, selfishness itself is hostile to God. It doesn’t submit to God’s Law, because it can’t. People who are self-centered aren’t able to please God. (Romans 8:7-8,CEB)
- The Victim
Steer clear of the why-do-bad-things-always-happen-to-me guy. His failings are always someone else’s fault. His life would be perfect if only other people weren’t out
to get him. Don’t yoke your life to someone who takes no responsibility for his own. Chose someone who doesn’t compare himself with others, but takes responsibility for doing the creative best with his own life. (Galatians 6: 5)
- The Eyeore
Do not get stuck for life with a chronic complainer. It will wear you down.
Find someone who will do everything (or at least most things) without grumbling or arguing. (Philippians 2:14). You want a man who will count it all joy. (James 1:2)
- The Self-Righteous Guy
This guy always knows what is right and what is wrong and, of course, always does the right thing. He can be identified by his sneering of those who don’t meet his standards, his judgmental opinions of everyone and his frequent use of the phrase, “I told you so.” You want someone who will live with you in harmony, associate with those who are different and not think himself wise. (Romans 12:16)
That’s right. Progressive, feminist Christians can proof-text with the best of them.
(1) The Real Meaning of the Term “Help Meet”