Could Halloween Be Just What We Need?

I live in a neighborhood that gets besieged at Halloween. We have sidewalks and streetlights that provide the perfect trick-or-treat set-up. Not only do we have a lot of kids in our neighborhood, but people truck in (or mini-van in) to our neighborhood. We've never been able to buy enough candy to outlast the stream of trick-or-treaters. There are some neighbors who resent the intrusion, but our family loves the ...

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We See You and We Celebrate You

    We see you and we celebrate you We see the good you do We see the love you share We see the people you serve We hear the names people call you Names that we do not recognize or publicize, lest we legitimize For those names don't define you We know you by one name Beloved Child of God Created in God's own image We don't pretend to know your pain But when you hurt, we hurt, too We may not walk in ...

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What We Learned from Milk

Our church does a weekly food pantry at the elementary school down the road. We started out doing backpacks for about 40 kids three years ago, moved into doing a food pantry (providing a bag of food to take the whole family through the weekend when kids are not getting breakfast and lunch at school) and serving about 90 people. This year the number has doubled, and our little church ...

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The First Weekend in October

In my little world, the first weekend in October means it's time for two things: World Communion Sunday (when our congregation ditches the sanctuary and worships outside at a local park) and the turning over of my closet. It's not a major endeavor. Most of my clothes I wear year round--jeans, t's, even some sweaters--but twice a year I pull down the green Rubbermaid container that holds my most fall/winter ...

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A White Mother’s Prayer

I am feeling heartbroken and hopeless in the face of continued violence against unarmed Black men in our country. This is the prayer I've been praying today. Hoping that prayer will lead to discernment and discernment will lead me to action. Dear Maker of All, I don't know how they do it. The mothers of sons whose skin is brown or black. How do they stand to let them out the ...

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In it for the Long Haul

The third installment in the Strength Training series 1 Corinthians 9:24-25 Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize?Run in such a way as to get the prize.  Everyone who competes in the games goes into strict training. They do it to get a crown that will not last, but we do it to get a crown that will last forever. (NIV) Luke 21:19 Stand ...

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If you’re a pastor voting for Trump, you may owe some apologies

For years, I have been disheartened and dismayed by the way some churches and pastors treat people because of their marital status. I'm not even talking about same sex marriage (that's another post), but old-fashioned, traditional marriage between a man and a woman. I have met countless people who have been made to feel unworthy and unloved by their faith communities because they have one (or more) failed marriages in their ...

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Why Ghostbusters Has Me Wearing My Clergy Collar

I've never been big on the clergy collar. When I first started in ministry, the blouses they made for women clergy were uncomfortable and unflattering, so I pretty much dismissed them. But now there are companies like Clergy Image, Women's Spirit and House of Ilona that make comfortable, stylish options so you don't feel like you're just trying to make a man's shirt work for you. So about a year ago, I ...

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You’re Stronger Than You Think

Promise me you'll always remember: You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” ― A.A. Milne Isaiah 40:28-31 During my sabbatical I decided to do something a little out of the ordinary for a pastor’s sabbatical. I decided to focus on physical health…because ministry is demanding. It’s demanding spiritually, emotionally and physically. And our tendency in ministry (and not unjustly so) is to focus so much ...

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Is My Theology Biblical?

Inspired by a poster my teacher friend, Whitney, created to help her students make sure they included all the important information when turning in a graph assignment: I decided that it would be handy to have a checklist to help people make sure what they are saying/sharing/tweeting/texting regarding Christianity is theologically sound. Please feel free to use this guide whenever the urge to make broad, sweeping statements about Christians, Christianity or the Bible strikes.

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Listening to the Right Voices

The trainer I've been working with via web and phone works with all kinds of women. Some, like me, just want to be fit and healthy and feel our best. Others are in serious training for fitness competitions.  These ladies are hardcore, and they often get a lot of flack from family, friends and just random people about their choices. "Why are you spending so much time at the gym?" "Why ...

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A Prayer for Mothers

Today we pray for moms We pray for the moms who bake cupcakes, wait in car lines, pack lunches, juggle sports schedules and preside over petty playground squabbles. We pray for the moms who struggle to feed their children, worry for their safety and hope for a better tomorrow. We pray for the moms who give up their children and the moms who lovingly make those children their own We pray for the moms who stay at home ...

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The School Testing Letter I’d Like to See

Dear Parents, As you know, standardized testing is coming up next week. We here at Rydell High are so proud of what our students learn and accomplish every day, and we want to ensure that these tests (as ridiculous as they may seem) accurately reflect what we know the young men and women of Rydell are capable of. You can help us! a) Tell your child not to worry about these tests. This is ...

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Talking with Your Children About Holy Week

There's no way around it. The miracle of the empty tomb and the Risen Lord don't have much meaning unless you travel through Good Friday and witness the crucifixion. And the crucifixion is ugly and scary and violent and painful. In an increasingly violent world, can't church just be the place where we teach our children that Jesus loves them? Do we have to bring up the story of what is likely the ...

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Never Gotten Taller Making Someone Else Feel Small

Three days into the Lenten challenge of lifting women instead of tearing them down, how's it going? If you find yourself easily slipping into the habit of talking behind your hand about someone else's outfit or even thinking snarky comments to yourself about that person in the office who always seems to get the raise or the good assignments, stop and ask yourself why you're doing it. And how does it ...

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Then Again, You Might Want to Give Something Up After All

A couple of days back, I posted a post (is there a better way to phrase that?) about how you might want to take on (rather than give up) something for Lent. But giving something up doesn't have to mean sacrificing something that brings you joy, it can mean letting go of things that bring you down. Consider the following disciplines: Give up caring what other people think of you. Give up stuff you don't use ...

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Why Taking On May Be Better For You Than Giving Up This Lent

When I was in seminary, a classmate of mine decided to give up beer for Lent. It's not that he had a drinking problem he was trying to address, he just really liked beer and thought that giving it up was his best bet to to test his discipline and commitment. It was not easy. This was Boston and St. Patrick's Day fell right in the middle of Lent that ...

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Does Lucifer Have Something to Say to Christians?

I get it. It is really irritating that Christians (particularly clergy) rarely show up on television, even in places like emergency rooms or disasters sites where (in real life) clergy can always be found. (Yeah, I'm talking to you Shonda Rhimes and Dick Wolf.) When Christian characters do show up on television at all, they are either buffoons, predators or overbearing, judgmental haters. To add insult to the injury of the poor portrayal ...

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Why Can’t We Be More Like The Early Church?

Acts 2:42-47 Chapter two is kind of the rah, rah, "yay, church!" chapter of the Book of Acts. The first part of Acts 2 is the story of Pentecost, which we celebrate every year in May or June. It’s the celebration of the coming of the Holy Spirit. It's wild and colorful and exciting and inspiring. The latter part of the chapter gives us a glimpse into the early church. The ...

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The Misunderstood InnKeeper

I have gotten a bad rap. I’m not even in Luke’s version of the nativity story and yet, in Christmas pageant after Christmas pageant for the last 2000 years, I’m made out to be the bad guy. I mean, I’m no Herod, but still…I don’t come off looking good. Somehow, I became the guy who turned poor Joseph and great-with-child Mary away from the inn so that her baby had to ...

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Christmas Movies For When You Feel More Like Scrooge than Santa

This season is not lacking in cute, funny, romantic and sappy sweet movies and televisions specials. But if you're not in the mood for extreme Christmas cheer and looking for something a little more substantive in your holiday entertainment, check out these flicks. A Christmas Without Snow Michael Learned (the Walton's mom) plays a divorced single mom trying to pull her life back together. She joins the choir of a local church ...

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The Best Bachelor Ever

They've already started doing promos for season 20 (20!) of The Bachelor. Ugh. I can't stand the concept of this show or The Bachelorette. The shows are demeaning, mean-spirited and just plain creepy. I really don't understand how they're even legal (seems a case could be made for prostitution). If I could ever muster the anger or time or energy to protest a television show, it would have to be ...

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Without Ruth and Naomi The Bible Wouldn’t Pass the Bechdel Test

I've just had the startling realization that The Bible just barely passes the Bechdel Test. I don't know why I'm surprised. I know that the Bible is steeped in patriarchal themes and language, but the Bechdel test just highlights it once again. For those unfamiliar, the Bechdel (or Bechdel-Wallace) test, is a media test mostly used for films. To pass the Bechdel test the film must have: at least two women characters who talk ...

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Not Feeling Thankful? It’s Okay

Thanksgiving is tomorrow! And there's so much to be thankful for! After all, you are not a refugee seeking a new place to call home. Your Thanksgiving table is not limited to whatever the good people at the church or the food bank or the Lion's Club put in your basket or box this year.  You are not a presidential candidate. Your level of gratitude should be through the roof! Except that maybe ...

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The House That Was Always Open

With all the talk of refugees and who our country will and won't welcome, I can't help thinking about the Rev. Dr. Jim Mosley (whose name graces the tabernacle at Ferncliff Camp and Conference Center, affectionately know as the J-Mo) and his saint-on-earth of a wife, Joanne. Jim was my pastor growing up. Back in the day, Westminster Presbyterian Church in Hot Springs provided a nice home in a rather well-heeled neighborhood ...

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Sometimes it really does hurt

I took my daughter to the orthodontist today for what seems like the zillionth time. There was a girl in the chair next chair who was much younger than my daughter, probably still in elementary school. She was crying. I don't know if  she was just getting braces on or if it was her first tightening or what. But she was crying and saying, "It hurts! It hurts!" (BTWs, I had ...

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I’m a Christian and Not Ashamed to Admit it…with stipulations

I keep seeing posts on Facebook of people declaring that they are not ashamed of Jesus Christ and challenging me to repost if I am not ashamed of being a Christian.  I never repost those things. Not because I'm ashamed of Jesus Christ or because I am not a Christian. I love Jesus. And I'm proud of being a Christian...as long as you understand that what I mean by Christian may ...

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Who Doesn’t Love Pie?

I love pie. I love movies about pie. If you haven't seen the 2007 movie Waitress with Kerri Russel and Nathan Fillion, you should check it out. I love this song about pie in the John Travolta movie Michael. Comedian Jim Gaffigan is a fan of cake and says that pie just can't compete. "Put candles in a cake, it's a birthday cake. Put candles in a pie, someone's drunk in the kitchen." But everyone ...

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Your Rights Aren’t Worth It

Another 10 people dead How many does that make now? Hundreds? Thousands? Hundreds of thousands? I give up. If the slaughter of little children at Sandy Hook didn't affect radical change, why should the deaths of some community college students make any difference? After all, you have rights. And that's more important. We wouldn't want to violate anyone's rights. People have sacrificed their lives for those rights. Are these mass murders just more of the same? More sacrificed lives for our individual ...

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Justified and Ancient…or is that Anxious?

(aka What's the Difference between Justification and Sanctification?) Surely in the annals of the history of music so bad it’s good, there is a place for that weird collaboration of British Band KLF and country music singer Tammy Wynette, “Justified and Ancient.” In fact, every time I hear the term “justified” in relation to faith, I can’t help but singing that song a little in my brain. The song makes no sense ...

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Real Prayers for Real People

It has occurred to me that, because I'm a "trained professional," that people may have some pre-conceived notions about how I'm praying when I tell them I'm praying for them or their loved ones. Spoiler alert: I am not an eloquent pray-er. Here are just some of the prayers I've prayed today. Feel free to be completely appalled or to adapt any and all for your personal use. Dear God, I know that ____________ is a ...

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Be Quick to Listen

James 1:17-27 Martin Luther really hated the Book of James. He called it a “right strawy epistle… for it has no gospel in it.” And you can see his point. Jesus Christ, is mentioned only twice in the whole book. There is no mention of the cross. There nothing about Jesus dying on the cross to pay for our sins. There is no mention of baptism. Nowhere does James talk about grace. ...

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That’s Not in the Bible: The Lord Helps Those Who Helps Themselves

The Lord Helps Those Who Help Themselves Isaiah 10: 1-4 2 Thessalonians 3:6-16 Throughout the week here at First Pres, we get people dropping by asking for assistance. To be honest, after almost 6 years here, I have still not been able to come up with a good system for us to determine who to help and how we will help. We’ve tried a number of ideas and introduced several different processes, but There ...

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What’s a White Girl to do When Black Churches are Burning?

Privileged shock is a complicated emotion. That's the feeling that White people get when we hear that another Black church has burned. We are horrified at the hate, and yet we know that our shock does not come with the fear that accompanies the horror of our friends and neighbors whose skin is darker than ours.  We know that we are angry, but we know that we aren't ever going to feel what ...

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Adopted by God

Ephesians 1:3-14 Back around A.D. (or C.E.) fifty-something, Paul arrived in Ephesus and began spreading the good news. He got the Jesus movement going and helped the folks there form a church over the course of about two years, then he went on to stir things up in other places. But not to long after he left Paul got word that the people with new hearts for Christ were back to ...

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God Won’t Give You More Than You Can Handle

Before we go any further with this “That’s not in the Bible” series, I think it’s important that we acknowledge that the Bible is not the only thing we misquote. Famous movie tag lines get altered after being told and re-told over and over again. Clint Eastwoord’s Dirty Harry is oft-quoted as saying, “Do you feel lucky, Punk?” was actually, “You’ve got to ask yourself one question. Do you feel lucky? Well ...

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That’s Not in the Bible: God’s Got This

   We like quick fixes. It kind of seems like the woman in our story this morning got one. She just touched Jesus’s cloak and boom, she was healed. But if you were listening closely to the story, you know that she had been suffering for 12 years. Twelve years! She had seen doctor after doctor. Her condition separated her from family and friends because it caused her to be declared ...

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To fix the things we can…

Thanks to some of our handier members, a few of the things that haven't worked so well at the church have been fixed. The sliding doors in the youth room now actually slide and can be closed completely. The light above the back interior door to the fellowship hall has not only been re-instated (there was just a hole where a light fixture used to be), but also has a ...

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Those who demonize others are often battling their own demons

Both of my parents have counseling degrees, and my father had a private counseling practice for nearly 40 years. When I was a child, my mother was the director of the county mental health association at the height of the transactional analysis era or the have-you-hugged-your-kid-today decade. So when someone at school was mean or just a pain in the butt, my parents would always remind me that the reason they ...

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When it comes to race, some of us are just clueless

It’s time to come clean. In light of what is happening in Baltimore tonight and what has been happening around the country, it’s time to share my story of racism...or what I like to think of as racial cluelessness... but it's still just plain racism. Back when I was in seminary at Andover Newton Theological School, I was the editor of the school newspaper, The Protestant. It was a play on ...

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The OKC bombing Sonic connection

Twenty years ago, I was working on an ad campaign for Shots for Tots that involved a partnership with Sonic Drive-Ins.  We had a small book of coupons for parents that the doctor's office would stamp when parents brought kids in for shots. The coupon was good for a free burger or ice cream or something.  I think the early coupons were geared more toward parents and then moved toward ...

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Me–I’m just glad to be here

When I went to summer camp as a kid, there was guy who spent his summers off from teaching and coaching kids in East Texas serving as a program director teaching and coaching kids in Arkansas. One of his duties was to get on the loud speaker every morning and give the wake up call and announcements. He ended every morning with, "The sun is shining (even if it was raining), ...

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Easter 2015–He’ll Meet You There

Easter 2015 We come here on Easter Sunday with bluegrass music playing, and Alleluias being unearthed and everybody all dressed up to celebrate the resurrection of our Lord Jesus Christ. New Life. Second Chances. Kingdom glimpses. But the very first Easter morning wasn’t anything like this. There was nothing to celebrate. Jesus was dead. Gone. Buried. His last words were “It is finished” and everyone took Him at His word. The only comfort ...

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Do Christians Get to Choose who to Serve?

In Arkansas, HB1228 is about to hit our governor's desk to be signed in to law. Should he sign it, it would allow people and businesses to refuse to serve others based on "sincerely held religious beliefs." There are many things that I believe are wrong with this bill (it has a slope so slippery, you could slide from here to the gulf coast on it), but what is so surprising ...

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Seeking Salvation

John 3:14-21 Are you saved? Of course the answer anyone asking that question wants to hear is “yes!” Or maybe they don’t. Maybe the kind of people who ask other people that question are just dying to hear a “no” so that they can be the ones to turn it in to a “yes.” Several of my friends always answers that question with “2000 years ago.” A few others always say, “over and over ...

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Some Humbly Submitted Rules for Being a Decent Person

I have always been the dumbest of the smart people--you know, the person who lands in the advanced or accelerated class or program and then struggles to keep up. My interests and activities lean more toward the low (rather than the high) brow. So I certainly don't have all the answers. But lately, it seems as if people who are rumored to be far smarter than I am have forgotten ...

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Seeking a Purpose

Mark 8:31-38 You probably have to be at least as old as I am to remember this, but those of you who are, hark back to 1981 when The Greatest American Hero premiered on television. It starred William Katt, Connie Selleca and Robert Culp. It was the show where Michael Pare made his debut before hitting it big with the cult classic Eddie and the Cruisers. That gives you an idea ...

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How and Where Does One Find a Deserted Place?

Mark 1:29-39 In these 11 short verses in the first chapter of Mark, Jesus has a lot going on. He’s healed Simon’s mother-in-law, then before the day is over, he’s healing all sorts of people and casting out demons right and left. The next day he goes out preaching to folks and casting out even more demons. He is a busy man who has many people making many demands on his ...

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10 Men No Woman (Christian or otherwise) Should Marry

I couldn't stand it. After reading two different posts (that I at first thought were a joke) about Men Christian Women Shouldn't Marry and Women Christian Men Shouldn't Marry, I had to put together at least one list of my own. So here are my 10 Men No Christian Woman Should Marry The Guy Who Always Puts You Down to Build Himself Up A guy who belittles you when you are alone and ...

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